With the holiday season coming up, this post might be timely. I thought I'd write a post (read RANT here folks) on etiquette. Where'd it go? Do people not think about acknowledging a gift with a simple spoken "thank you" or drop an email or even a snail mail thank you card? Arggh!
So what brought this on?
This past summer, I had the opportunity to attend a familial get together to celebrate a 2nd cousin's college graduation with her master's degree. I am on a limited income and to gift money, I have to budget. Which is what I did. It wasn't hundreds, by no means, but it was what I could afford. She opened the cards and gifts in another room so I know she got the money. Was there any kind of acknowledgment? No. I doubt if there ever will be. This relative will not receive another gift from me.
Second installment this year happened fairly recently. I sent some handmade baby receiving blankets and hand knit sox to a niece and never received a "Hi, how are you, thanks". This is the second time this has happened with this person. I was thanked for the handmade afghan (wedding gift) after prodding from her mother.
Both of these girls are of the same generation. Could that be it? Am I expecting too much? Should I stop sending gifts to the niece too? I do have a three-strikes you're out policy. Do I really want to spend more time and effort on a handmade gift when I know I'll be treated the same way? Questions, questions and decisions to be made.
Is it just my family in which this happens or is the lack of etiquette more pervasive?
On a more positive note, the ponies and miniature horses were playing tag this morning. With their manes streaming and their breath going out in clouds, they were having fun kicking up last night's snow!